I am kind of a namer. I belong to a naming message board, I keep name lists (long ones). My name lists have names and popularity rankings (according to the US Social Security rankings). My name lists have meanings. My name lists are sorted by long lists and Top 10 lists and favorite name combos (first name and middle name) and names I would actually use on a real kid.
This entire pregnancy I have avoided talking with Josh about names for two reasons 1) I know we have different taste in names and I remember how hard it was for us to find Heidi's name and 2) I'm terrified that he'll hate all of my names and I'll cry.
The bad thing about not talking names until now is that I've become attached to a couple of names. They are kind of my "top" names and names I think I would really use if it was up to me TODAY to name baby Noodle. Gosh, just giving the fetus a nickname was hard enough.
So tonight, I shared my lists with Josh. For naming purposes I shared the "names I would actually use on a real kid" lists. And, as expected, he massacred them. I denied him veto power at this point hoping that some of the names might "grow" on him. But really, as awesome as it is to have a partner in life, it kind of sucks when I have to defer to someone else for a huge decision like this.
I'm hoping that a name will pop for both of us like it did with Heidi. We stumbled upon her name well-into the pregnancy (around 30 weeks). We both thought on it for one day and the next day I said "I think she's a Heidi" and he said "so do I." And she was. And I still adore her name. That makes it even harder for me to think that maybe I won't love baby Noodle's name as much as I do hers. That maybe I'll have to use a compromise name.
Sigh. Maybe if I feed him lots of alcohol I can get him to agree to my favorites. Off to email him my lists so that he can think about them so more.
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